If you are raising children today, you are likely to remember what it was like to spend your childhood without technology, rewind tapes, talk face-to-face with friends, ask your parents for a ride, and agree on a time to pick up because there was no Mobile phones.

Although it might have seemed easier then, there were still challenges. War, violence, inequality and harassment existed even then. Everything always seems easier when we look back and often forget the difficult parts.

Raising children in a world of insecurity presents new challenges that require careful planning, but also provides a unique opportunity to reunite families and turn your home into a safe haven for your loved ones. Keeping children happy has nothing to do with what we give them, but everything with the time we spend together.

Although life may have become more complex, we have more tools and awareness than ever to overcome obstacles and support our children’s emotional development instead of sweeping their emotions under the rug. It is an opportunity to develop emotionally, grow spiritually, and heal our families. Growth does not happen without struggle.

As we live in an age where crowded schedules, technology and social media are commonplace, many families are trying to slow down and reconnect. Here are 10 simple ideas to make raising children in a world of insecurity less stressful.

1. Accept and confirm your children’s emotions

Accept and confirm all the emotions your children are experiencing. When you are upset and a well-meaning family member tells you to relax, how does it make you feel? Usually not better!

If your child feels anxious going to school, he will not take away these emotions by telling him that he is fine or not to worry. What we can do is try to understand why they feel this way and then organize an activity to increase confidence or individual time during breakfast to help them feel safe and loved.

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Resist the urge to tell them not to feel this way (this can be difficult!), Even if you know they have nothing to worry about. Share a moment when you felt the same way and how you experienced it.

2. Be their safe zone

This is not about the perfect family or home situation or a boost. Being their safe zone means that your child can be at home without judgment. This may require all siblings to be on board.

If they have an unusual hobby, ask them what they are interested in or how they feel when working on it. This benefits the whole family and encourages everyone to let the stress out and lead with their heart.

Give them some responsibility in the home to contribute, which is not tied to a bonus or reward. If there are changes in the family or living conditions, keep the children informed. They usually want to know how the changes will affect them. Maintaining as much structure and predictability as possible will comfort them.

3. Limit social media and stick to the technology comfort zone

Children are attracted to technology like a magnet. How do you feel after scrolling your phone? Most would say no better, but our children often lack self-awareness to know when something is not making them feel good.

Don’t feel bad when your children are upset by the rules you set. We have heard from countless children who say they are happy that their parents limit their time to social media and technology. Although they may not admit it now, one day they will thank you!

4. Keep in touch with the centering activities

Children and teenagers often need guidance to get out of their heads. Family walks, yoga, church and attention activities are great ways to connect and restore balance.

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Mindfulness sounds more complicated than it is. He does everything with all your attention and the benefits are huge. Art, cooking, listening to music, essential oil diffusers and an evening of games are just a few ideas to bring attention and serenity to your family time.

There are countless activities that your family can do together to benefit from this practice. Think of themed dinners where each family member gets an overnight stay to choose a family activity.

5. Get involved locally

What are some ways you can volunteer in your community as a family? Are there neighbors who could use a hand? Explore school clubs.

Although your child may not take the opportunity to join a club of school activists, encourage them to try. They may just be interested in something new!

6. Help your family develop thinking for growth

There will not be sun and roses every day and it is not in our children’s interest to do so. Mistakes are essential for growth. Challenges are needed to instill firmness and determination.

It has been proven that parents who praise the efforts of their young children instead of their talent have a more positive mindset five years later. These children believed that their abilities could be developed and improved through hard work.

Comment on the effort and perseverance, not the ideal result. Instead of relying on outside praise, help them notice how their efforts make them feel.

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How did it feel to go on and solve this math problem? What did you do when things became challenging? Are you proud of the result?

Although no parent wants their child to suffer, sometimes it is best to allow them to deal with a problem on their own, knowing that they have your love and support.

7. Keep family time

As our children approach adolescence, they may show a preference for being with friends instead of at home. Try to keep at least one or two days a week for family time.

Again, whatever they say now, they will thank you later. Take advantage of this time together to connect and do something fun like an evening of games or movies, cook dinner together, or take turns choosing an activity.

8. Help your children take care of their well-being

Help your child develop the skills to take care of their well-being. Living in a world where our external environment is not always calm or under our control, it is essential to teach children to take ownership of their inner world.

Although every child is different, it is vital to help them explore activities that develop confidence and make them feel good. Sports, the arts, diaries, yoga and meditation are just a handful of engaging options to help them find empowerment.

9. Resist over-planning

Surprisingly, the word “no” returns to our vocabulary.

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The children will say yes to any activity if they can. It is up to the parents to limit their commitments. Even too many fun activities for a week contribute to stress and burnout.

10. Develop a morning routine

Whether your children are at home or going to school, the morning sets the tone for the day.

What would be a sensible routine for your family? Fifteen minutes can make all the difference in the world to set your kids and yourself up for a great day.

Here are some ideas:

  • Affirmations – Work with your child to create meaningful affirmations. Encourage them to express their affirmation with feelings and to close their eyes and imagine what it feels like. Discuss how they will implement this in their day.
  • Morning Dance Party – Choose an inspirational song to start your day.
  • Prayer or Thanksgiving Practice – This inspires hope and reminds your child that he is not alone. Our brains are prone to negativity, which means we tend to focus on problems rather than good things. It is useful to notice the good is practice. There is much more than you think!
  • Starting conversations – Take a deck to start a conversation and do one every morning for breakfast.

Finally, know when to get help. Having professional support for orienteering in challenging situations can make everything different so that you and your children have someone to guide you.

Last thoughts

Raising children in a world of insecurity certainly poses new challenges that we need to keep in mind. However, it also provides a unique opportunity to restore family time and create a home environment that is supportive and welcoming.

What changes can you make in your weekly routine to reconnect or fill the other’s emotional buckets? You may hear a murmur as you make adjustments, but your children will thank you later!

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